Sunday, December 19, 2010

Food Addiction

I am addicted to food. Let me rephrase that I am addicted to sugary fatty foods.

I am so afraid of messing up. I wish that this surgery could cure food addiction. I seem to be eating everything that is bad for me. Mostly when I am at home. I know it is boredom and what do I do? I head to the fridge and/or the cabinets trying to find something to eat. Why do I even have the bad stuff in the house? That is a good question. I guess that will be the question I ask myself when I go to the grocery store tonight.

What to do about boredom. Well I could make all kinds of promises but I know that I won't keep those promises. All I want to do when I am at home is sit and watch TV. I don't want to get up and work out or clean the house or get some kind of hobby. I just want my mind to shut off.

Even though the weight is coming off slowly and the inches are coming off, I know in the back of my mind that if I continue to eat the way that I do that I will gain the weight back. That is unacceptable to me. But how do I get my brain to work with me and not against me? Oh this is so hard!!!!

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

3 Months Post Op

I am 3 months post op!

 Weight

July 29th - 248.8
Sept 7th - 229
Oct 7th - 212.8
Nov 7th - 204.8
Dec 7th - 198.4

So that is a total loss of 50.4lbs since July and 30.6lbs since surgery.

Well I guess we can start off by saying that Thanksgiving went better than I expected it to go. At first I didn't know if I could or wanted to be around anyone since Momma passed away. But I did. And it was wonderful to be around so much of my family. My little sister Angel, hosted her first Thanksgiving dinner at her house. I had small bites of just about everything there. Then my older sister Tonia, had Thanksgiving at her house, and I had small bites of just about everything there. It went very well.

My eating is still the same as last month. Still learning how fast, how much and what I can eat. When I eat sweets, like ice cream, I get a major sugar rush and feel sick to my stomach. That didn't happen before. So guess what, that has curbed my desire for sweets.

I have started walking at the YMCA 1 to 2 times a week. I know that is not much but at least it is something. I take the stairs at work and I park further away from the building.

All of my clothes are so loose now. However, I'm not quite ready for the next size down in pants. I need a little more off from around my belly in order to go down a size.

I feel so much better now. I can walk up the stairs without feeling like I'm going to have a heart attack. I cross my legs all the time now. I can sit indian style. My sons can pick me up like a rag doll. And the best thing I am under 200lbs for the first time in 14 years.

Love my sleeve!

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Missing momma something aweful

Not a day goes by that I don't think about the moment me and JT were told that she didn't make it. Not a day goes by that I don't think about something that she did or said. I am missing her so bad right now. As I was leaving work today I noticed that I waved at the security guard exactly the same way she would wave at him. The holidays are right around the corner... what do I do? I don't want to celebrate without her. My heart is breaking!!! How do I stay the strong one, how did she stay the strong one? I feel so lost. She is not in pain anymore, how can I be so selfish to want her to be here with me? No one to comfort me just because I need to be comforted. No one to love me just because I am me. No one to yell at me because I am in trouble. I don't want momma to be gone, I want to be selfish and pick up the phone and call her just to hear her say she loves me. Why did God need to take my mom? Why did he call her home so soon? Why must there be so much pain with losing her?

I want my momma!!!!!!!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Bo Lee's Baby Shower

Bo had her baby shower today. It was great seeing her so happy. She received a lot of stuff from her loving family. She had it at Ryan's steakhouse, it is a buffet style restaurant. I did great! We were there for 2 hours and I had 1 small plate of food and a couple bites of a cupcake. I was so busy enjoying myself with my family I didn't even think about eating.

I love my family!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

2 Months Post Op

I am 2 months post op!

 Weight

July 29th - 248.8
Sept 7th - 229
Oct 7th - 212.8
Nov 7th - 204.8

Inches
Neck -2
Chest -5
Waist -6
Hips -6
Arms 0
Legs -4

I am still learning what I can and cannot eat. Somethings put the weight back on and some do not. I haven't been following the doctor's plan exactly. However, I do have these 4oz cups that I use to measure out my food for work. I can eat just about anything, doesn't mean I should, just means I can. I still struggle to get in all of my water. I mix things up by drinking water or powerade zero. I can drink more at work but once I get home it seems to slow down. I haven't been exercising at all. My excuse, I am too mentally tired to do it after work and on the weekends I just want to relax. I know that I need to exercise to lose more weight, to keep my body fit, but my laziness keeps me from doing it. The boys try to get me to go with them and I refuse everytime. I am happy with the weightloss and with the restriction the sleeve gives me. I would never be able to do this on my own. Things will only get better from here.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Remembering Momma

On 10/11/10 my mom, Mildred Annette Harris passed away. She had a blood vessel break in her belly and her heart wasn't strong enough to take it. Me and JT were back there waiting outside her room when they pronounced her. That was the hardest thing I have ever heard in my life. Momma was just with me earlier that day at work. I sat beside her at a meeting (which by the way I normally did not do). She told me her back and hips were hurting her. Even when she was in pain, she was still a happy person. I say that, but the most I seen her was at work. I talked to her everyday through sametime (IM), we always told each other Good Morning, I Love You. It seem like weeks went by without actually seeing her. Her friend Anne that sat right in front of her knew more about what was going on with Momma than I did. Anne would email me and ask me how mom was doing... I would say "I don't know" and Anne would tell me how sick she was. I would call Momma to check on her at that point. Momma would always tell me she was fine.. but she would also go into telling me what was wrong with her. Most of the time it was her COPD. She just couldn't breathe very well.

So after they pronounced her, I had to go out and tell the family that was waiting in the waiting room. All I can remember at that point was the doctor walking me out and all I could say is "My mommy is gone, my mommy is gone".  That was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. These images will stick with me for the rest of my life. I was shaking so bad, but all I could think of doing was telling all of the people she loved and that loved her that she had passed away. I don't know why, I'm guessing because I just really needed to be the one to tell them, not someone else. I know this sounds more like what it has to do with me, but this is the only way to explain what happened and how I felt. I can't explain what anyone else felt. I know they were hurting but their hurt is different than my hurt. We all love Momma and Momma loved everyone.

Tuesday we met at the funeral home (Me, Ben, Aaron, Tonia, JT, Nikki, Philip, Gary, Brandon, Jacob, Brandon Burr, Lisa) to make the arrangements.

Wednesday I went to work to clean out her desk. That was hard but I knew there was a ton of support around me.

Thursday was the visitation. There was so many people that came. There was a ton of co-workers that came to pay their respects. That meant so much to all of us. I had pictures of Momma out of her younger years. JT picked out a great outfit for Momma, her normal clothes, pink shirt and brown pants. Something she wore all of the time. She was surrounded by pictures of her grandbabies and great grandbabies.

Friday was the funeral. Again so many people were there that it filled the front and back rooms, the hall and the foyer. Uncle Doug did the service, Aunt Ginny played the organ. Aaron sang a song for granny, Alan Jackson's Sissy's Song. He did such a great job, I don't think I have ever heard anything more perfect in my life. There was about 40 cars that went to the grave site. Momma was buried in Chapel Hill. It is so peaceful there.

I imagine her life was just like many of our lives. There was always ups and downs. But the one thing you can say about Momma is that she never met a stranger. I think that was part of growing up with Granny and PawPaw Meador, they never met a stranger either. I can remember growing up, if Momma had something to eat or drink that is the first thing that I wanted. She would give it no problem. I think I did that all of my life. LOL, that's probably why I don't think twice about any child wanting a bite of my food or a drink of whatever I have. I just give it to them. Of course there are things that as a child I didn't like and that I did differently with my children but that is how we learn. I wouldn't be the person I am today without going through what I went through as a child. I have many years to cry and yell and all she did was listen. I had many years to apologize for everything I did as a child and adult that I put her through. I have to make peace that she went fast and I did have the times I had with her.

You are forever remembered Momma.. I LOVE YOU!!!








Sunday, October 10, 2010

New Clothes from a great friend

10/10/10 - Yesterday I saw my friend Lisa and she gave me a big bag of clothes that she could no longer fit into. I am so grateful to have such great friends. Here are a few photos of the clothes.



Saturday, October 9, 2010

1 Month

Well as of 10/07/10 I have been sleeved for 1 month. I am down 16.2lbs since surgery and a total of 36lbs since I started tracking my weight on July 29th. I have went down 2 pant sizes, I drink about 4oz at anytime and I am full, I have to remind myself to eat, my youngest son Aaron can now pick me up over his shoulder with no problem at all (I have a picture of this), I look in the mirror and I am beginning to like myself again.
 
I am still on full liquids for the rest of this week, next week I start on pureed food for 2 weeks and then on to regular foods. I am so sick of yogurt, jello, pudding, crystal lite flavorings, popsicles and soup. I am really ready for some real food. I have not had much energy because of being on liquids so I haven't been working out, just walking a little bit. I do take my vitamins everyday. I however do not get in all of my water or protein, I am full most of the time and have to remind myself to eat. The head hunger has went away some since I have come back to work. I stay so busy I don't think about eating. It's worse at home when the family is eating or when I smell food but because I don't feel the hunger all I really want is a small taste, which I do get most of the time, and then I'm done.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Working on week 3

09/28/10 - Weighed in at 215.2lbs, down 5lbs from last week
Still on a full liquid diet, which consist of protein shakes, broth, carbmaster yogurt, SF Jello, SF Pudding and lots of water. Can't wait for some food.

1st week back to work wasn't so bad. I was able to pack my food and take my 20oz bottle to keep water in. I am keeping a food journal and doing my best to write in it everytime I eat. Of course it is easier during the week when I have the journal out on my desk at work. But at home the journal is in my purse and I tend to forget about it. I did receive so many compliments at work about my weightloss. That made me feel very good that others are seeing my weightloss.  I also had to replace 2 pairs of my work pants because they were falling off of me. I went to Fashion Bug today (10/02/10) to get a couple of new pairs of pants, and OMG I got to buy a size 18!! That is 2 sizes down!! This is a very happy day for me!

This is too funny!!! Aaron can now pick me up over his shoulder with no problem at all.

Another week down

09/21/10 - 09/27/10
Weighing in at 220lbs.  Down 2lbs from last week.
The only things that really went on this week is my sister had her son on 09/22/10, he weighed 9lbs. I went to see him the next day as that is also the day I had my 2 week appointment with the surgeon. Seeing my sister, her daughter and son was the best part of my week.


I went to the Y with Aaron on Saturday and tried to lift weights but even the lightest weights were too heavy and I was getting so lightheaded so I just walked the track while Aaron worked out. I went back to work on Monday the 27th. It is actually really good to be back at work. I fix my lunch box with all my food measured out and when I eat it I make sure to write it down in my journal. This helps me keep track with my food and water.

 OMG I almost forgot!! I found a couple pairs of blue jeans in the attic, they are a size 20 and they fit with room. Even though I went from a 22 to a 20 it's all good for me. Also, when getting ready for my first day back to work I put on a pair of work pants and they were WAY to big for me! Now that's what I'm talking about!!!

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Sleeved for a week

09/14/10 - So today I have been sleeved for a week. I weighed in at 222.8 lbs. That's 7 lbs since surgery. How cool is that! Ok, now on to what I did today. Me and Ben went out today. We ate at TGI Fridays and I had mashed potatoes and only ate a few, took the rest home. Then we went to Best Buy to get the second season of Sons of Anarchy. Love me some Jacks!! While we were there we saw Angel, Eva, Sabrina and baby. Boy Angel looks like she could bust any second. The baby will be here soon. The rest of the night I have had a protein shake, went on a walk with Ben, the rest of my mashed potatoes and now having a protein water. I can certainly feel the fullness.

09/15/10 - So I have had a protein shake, chicken broth, popsicle's and protein water.  I went on a walk with Aaron and noticed that my pants kept falling down. I guess that's a step in the right direction. Oh yea, I got more work done on my sleeve. It is now connected (top and bottom).  It's been a good day.



09/16/10 - 09/18/10
I have been really blah the last few days so I haven't really felt like posting. Not really getting in all of my water or walking. I got on the scales today and haven't lost any weight. I'm thinking that is because I haven't been up walking around. Today I went to Veteran's Memorial Park with Aaron for the Old Timers Parade. He sang with his school choir a few times. It was nice outside today so that was good. By the time he was done, well let's just say we were done and ready to go. I did wish I could eat everything that was there. It all smelt so good. I did have some barbecue though. It settled in my new tummy well. So right now, hanging on the couch watching TV.

09/19/10 - Today I have just layed around and watched movies. Iron Man, Terminator Salvation, Hangover and the 1st disk of season 2 Sons of Anarchy. I have had a protein shake, won ton soup, 2 pieces of shrimp, couple bites of chicken and a few bites of sugar free pudding. Man, what am I going to do when I have to go back to work. No more sitting around.... well sitting in the comfort of my own home that is. I know I keep saying this but I need to get my lazy butt out of the house and start walking. Sitting here is not getting the weight off.

09/20/10 - I got up this morning to take Aaron to school then hopped back into bed when I got home. Me and Ben slept till about 11am. Then we went to get smoothies and to walk around the mall some. Well we walked around in the halloween store and I was just too light headed and weak so we left to come back home. Good thing too, Ben was feeling pretty bad, when we got back home he went to bed and slept from 230pm to 11pm. I had him go get me some laxatives because I have had a BM in at least a week. I know I am not following my NUT rules. I have been eating small amounts of food for most of last week. But I am only suppose to have liquids. I had this surgery to lose weight and to live a healthier life. But I haven't been able to let go of the bad habits. Those habits are everywhere!! It's going to be so hard for me!

Monday, September 13, 2010

Post Op

Everything moved so quickly the day of the surgery. I had to wait about 2 hours before they took me back to get ready. Then it was all a blur. I have 6 incisions that are just painful enough to know they are there. All of the nurses were great, Dr Spaw is great.

09/08/10 - Today is the worse so far. I woke up nauseous and in pain. I tried to sleep as much as I could. The nauseous and pain finally got better later in the night.

09/09/10 - Today woke up feeling much better. No nauseous feeling but still have pain. I got to come home today.

09/10/10 - So about today. Well it has been a good day. I have a little more gas than yesterday but nothing that hurts.  I have sat and slept on the couch most of the day. Got up and walked around the house some. Drank my protein water. I am still sore but that's to be expected. I only take my pain medicine when it's the kind of hurt that I can't get comfortable with. Otherwise, it's a heating pad and lots of pillows

09/11/10 - Let me start out by saying that when I came home Thursday 09/09/10 I weighed 234. Today I weighed 228 so I have lost the extra weight from the gas and fluids given to me at the hospital. Ok now onto today. I got up this morning feeling very lightheaded and nauseous. I took my nausea medicine for the first time since being in the hospital and went back to bed. I played on the computer until I fell asleep. I slept for a few hours and got back up feeling better. I ate the rest of my pudding cup and drank very slowly my water. I am again feeling nauseous. I am thinking that it has to do with not having enough food in me. But again this is to be expected right now.

09/12/10 - Got up feeling ok. Decided to take Aaron to my sister's house in Nashville. Sat at her house for about an hour and got tired. Came back home and watched the Titans with Matthew. Finally got sleepy enough to go lay down in my bed. Got up later on just in time for Ben and Aaron to come home. Again, just sat around watching TV. By the time it was to go back to bed I was feeling very anxious, like my legs wanted to run a marathon or something. Took me forever to fall asleep and even then I layed on the couch in order to sit up some. As far as food goes, I got in a 20oz cup of protein water during the day, SF Pudding, Chicken Broth and Popsicle. My tummy doesn't really hurt anymore except when I have gas, even then it's more pressure than pain.

09/13/10 - So after last night I had to get up this morning to go see my therapist. After taking a shower one of my bandages came off. It's ok, it has a steri strip over it. The therapy appointment went well. Took a protein shake with me and only finished about half of it. Ben went to pay bills while I was at therapy. After therapy we just went riding around awhile to enjoy the day. Got home and rested on the couch. Aaron fixed him a tuna sandwich and I took the small amount of tuna left in the can and ate it. You would think the boys were going to think I was going to die or something. They were all over me about eating food while I am suppose to be on liquids. Thankfully my new tummy handled it well.

Gastric Sleeve Surgery


09/07/10 - I had my surgery today. Weighed in at 229, they also repaired the hatal hernia. I have been dosing off and on all day. I have been able to eat ice chips which has been awesome. The pain is mostly in my neck and left shoulder area and knock on wood has not been bad. It's 6:07 pm and I have not been walking yet. I am loving my sleeve.

Before

After being hooked up     



After Surgery  

What was done to me

The day I get to go home

Week 2 of Pre Op diet

08/30/10 - Well I am now on week 2 of my pre-op diet which consist of only liquids. I have to say that I did horrible on week 1. I knew I could have 1 meal a day and I ate whatever I wanted to instead of what they told me to eat. I just felt like I was starving. I know this week will be very hard for me. But only 1 week left before surgery. Over all I have lost 10.6lbs since July 29th

Pre Op diet begins

08/23/10 - Today I begin my pre-op diet. I think I will do fine the first few days because I had already started the process of eating less and drinking protein shakes. However, it has been really hard to stay awake so far today (it's 11:40am). I am really hoping this part gets better!

Under 240

08/21/10 - Well I weighed myself this morning and I am 239.4!!!!! That is awesome to me because it has been at least 5 years since I was under 240. I am so proud of myself!

Pre Op Testing

08/20/10 - So today I went for my pre-op testing. It included an upper GI, blood work, EKG and pre admission. I really thought it was going to take most of the day however much to my surprise it only took a couple of hours. Next week I start my pre-op diet so I will be having an early birthday in order to enjoy a nice piece of cake.

Surgery Date Scheduled

08/11/10 - So I went to my meeting with the surgeon Dr Spaw. He was very nice and explained a lot of things to me and my husband. After that I received my surgery date which is Sept 7 2010... 3 days after my birthday... What a great birthday giff to myself. Then me with the nutritionist. I had already started changing my eating habits just be reading all the posts so I think I am mentally ready to go through the pre-op diet.

Approval of Gastric Sleeve

08/04/10 - On Monday August 2nd, my WLC sent in for approval for the sleeve. They told me we could something by Thursday August 5th. Well I got a little surprise tonight. At the company I work for, they a program called Healthy Life. This where they will have nurses call and check on you. Help answer questions. Well this is when I found out I had been approved for my surgery. I can't wait to get the phone call tomorrow from the WLC. Tomorrow is the beginning of a new me.